We take you step by step through our tried and true writing process — from brainstorming to writing to editing — so that on the big day you can look your partner in the eye and know you have the words to tell them how much they mean to you.
In this 40+ page toolkit we’ve covered everything you need to write your vows. Plus we’ve included a Word document so that you can start writing quickly and easily.
Brainstorming — Over the past ten years of working with hundreds of clients, we’ve learned what questions generate the best content for writing your vows. We walk you through getting started, getting to the good stuff, and making sure you’re clear what you really want to convey.
Writing — Here’s where our years of experience really come to life. We’ve created two template vows — one that’s more playful and casual, one that’s more serious and romantic — for you to customize, personalize, and edit until they’re your vows. You’ll use the material you generated in the brainstorming phase to make sure that you’ve expressed everything you want to about your love, relationship, and wonderful partner.
Editing — While we wish that the first draft were perfect, there’s usually at least a few minor revisions needed. We walk you through tidying up your vows and making sure that you’ve conveyed the most important sentiments.
Practicing — No matter how perfect your written words are, it’s important to make sure they sound good aloud as well.. If you’re a little nervous, first of all you’re in good company (75% of the population gets nervous about public speaking) and second of all, we’ve got you covered. Our simple process for practicing for the big day will have you calm, cool, and collected when it’s time to read your vows to your sweetheart.
While we’ve packed in everything you need to put your love in writing, we’ve also included some bonuses to help inspire your writing process. And if you are getting started with just a few days to spare, we’ve included our last-minute guide to writing your vows as well.
Example vows to inspire — Sometimes it’s nice to see how it all comes together. Which is why we’ve provided a couple examples in case you need a bit more inspiration to get your creative juices flowing. For extra bonus points, we’re also provided more examples on our website, via a hidden page that you can access through the toolkit.
A last-minute guide to writing your vows — If you have days, not weeks, to write these vows, we can still help. If you’re short on time (but not on love) you’re going to want to skip to this section so that you can start writing ASAP. But don’t worry, even on a more compact timeline we’ve got you!
STEP 1: BRAINSTORM
STEP 2: WRITE
STEP 3: EDIT
STEP 4: PRACTICE
STEP 5: GET MARRIED!
This toolkit is for you if…
You have some ideas swirling in your head and need help getting them out and organized
You’re not sure where to start but it’s important to you that you write your own vows
You’re ready to do it yourself but the blank page is too much to go at it alone
You want to wow your partner on the big day with the perfect words
You love your sweetie and want to make sure they know it
You want your vows to be personal, unique, and perfect for your love
You’re ready to get started writing, right now!
Who it won’t work for…
Anyone who wants full-service vows written for them
Anyone who’s already happy with what they’ve written
Angie Sommer
Tami Weiss
Alicia Ostarello
Founded in 2010, Vow Muse combines the creative energy of Alicia Ostarello, Angie Sommer, and Tami Weiss. We’ve helped hundreds of people express their love in writing (you can read some of their kind words here) through our collaborative process. We’ve been featured in The New York Times, WSJ, Brides, Good Morning America, Marketplace, and more!
Over the years we’ve heard from folks who want to write their vows on their own or who can’t afford the full-service options, which is why we decided to create these toolkits! Because we believe that expressing your love in writing should be accessible to everyone.
We offer a fresh take on old traditions so that the results feel brilliantly just like you.
If you’re ready to save time, money, and frustration, then click below to get started!
